Friday, March 15, 2013

YOUR EXAMPLE SHAPES YOUR CHILDREN'S FUTURE

So I did the insanity work out last night with a group of girls at church and it totally kicked my butt again.  But I'm still keeping at it and believing God is going to continue to give me the strength and right mental, emotional attitude for this journey.
Abby and Becca and my little Jaelle have been such great support and right by my side.  Abby watched Jaelle during the workout so that me and Becca could have fun working out.  Jaelle came out during part of the work out and did some jumping and dancing moves- totally made me love the work out even though I felt like I couldn't go at it any longer.  That little gal totally got me pumped!
I was telling a co-worker this morning how my eating and lifestyle totally effects my children.  I had a test last night.  After the work out I had to stop to fill my van with gas.  Becca said "Mom, when you go to the gas station I want to go in and get some food. I'm so hungry."  And in my mind I was like, "I know she's hungry and it won't hurt to reward her since she was exercising so much tonight."  But then I thought, "No, we can wait till we get home and eat the good food we have at home."  I told Becca this and she was upset and I started feeling guilty and then realized that I was allowing guilt and "rewarding with food" to direct my decision.  So I nipped it in the bud and remained firm and confident in that we would eat food when we got home.  And in the end, Becca was fine with it and the fit ended.  So I almost gave in to that food demon of emotional eating but in the end I won!!  When we got home we had yogart, cheese, milk and graham crackers.  Then we read a book before bed and I felt like we really fed our bodies right- we exercised, we played together, we fed our minds by reading a good book and we rested well because our bodies were cared for. 

Here is some spiritual food for thought today:
"I delight to do thy will, O my God; thy Law is within my heart." Psalm 40:8

"For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double -edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart." Hebrews 4:12

THIS IS MY READING FOR TODAY from DaniJohnson.com

YOUR EXAMPLE SHAPES YOUR CHILDREN'S FUTURE

As parents, we have a deep desire to see our children grow up to be honorable, responsible adults. We long to see our kids succeed financially, relationally, and in every area of their lives. We have this hope that they will avoid the mistakes we've made, and they will far surpass our own level of success.
We do our best to give our children the best possible start in life. Sometimes we succeed in that, and other times we totally miss the mark.
Whether you make a conscious decision to set the best possible example for your kids or not, they are always watching you. And they will follow your example. No matter what kind of example you set, they will follow it.
That may give you shivers down your spine right now. But I promise, it's okay. There is a reason you are reading this right now.
Kids see so much more than we realize. They catch on so quickly, and our habits soon become their habits. Our way of thinking quickly becomes their way of thinking.
Your kids are watching you, and they will do what you do. They will spend how you spend, talk how you talk, and eat how you eat.
When they see you stopping by the grocery store on your way home, buying more food when you have a pantry full of food, guess what message that sends to your kids? It tells them it's okay to buy in excess just because you have the money. Or when you go shopping for yet another pair of black shoes or a new cell phone, and you whip out your credit card, you are showing them that it's okay to go into debt for stuff.
How about this one... Do your kids see you spending too much time in front of the mirror or making negative comments about your weight or appearance? Do they see you spending hours at the gym? Or on the flip side, do they see you plop down on the couch to watch TV every day and never getting any exercise? Do they see you obsessing over food, either to one extreme or the other?
Do they hear you gossip about your boss or your co-workers? Do they hear you complain about what your boss said yesterday or how you hate your job? What about this one... "I hate Mondays!"
What I'm trying to say is your kids are watching what you do, and they will pick up your habits and mindsets. They will follow your example. These things are shaping their future and shaping the kind of person they will grow up to be.
In fact, this actually goes for leaders of companies, teachers, and businesspeople as well. This applies to employees, community leaders, and even kids and teens!
We are all products of our environment. Your employees are a product of their environment - your office. Your students are a product of their environment - your classroom. Your children are a product of their environment - you.
There are things in our lives that we never thought (consciously or subconsciously) would affect anyone other than ourselves. But the second you step into a leadership position, whether that role is as a mother, a manager, a teacher, a CEO, or a community leader, your life is no longer your own.
Some people may read this and break down in tears because they realize they have, without even knowing it, set an example for their kids that is not setting them up for success. Others will take this message as confirmation that they are on the right track, and they are giving their kids the best possible start in life.
Whichever category you fall into, know this: You are not held accountable for what you did not know.
But now that you have this information and you are aware that your actions have a massive impact in other people's lives, you have to make a decision to set the right example. Be intentional in your words and actions. Those around you, especially your kids, are soaking it all up. They are watching you, and they will replicate you. So choose to set your kids up for success instead of unintentionally setting them up for failure.
I pray this message gives you hope today! I hope this has either reinforced some things for you or helped you start to build a solid foundation for your children. Either way, I want you to know that I believe in you. You are being prepared to raise smart, strong, successful kids, and I really believe that you can do it!

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